Don't think me a complainer about my situation. I am writing some of this down just for documentation sake. This will be a very negative post I promise.
A few days ago my wife was wanting me to get a new air filter for the furnace. It was a good idea and needed done. She wanted it done fast so I ordered it from lowes for her to pick up and gave her my credit card. She jumped my case and said "should I be worried about how much debt you're racking up?!". I had to bite my tongue. Seriously? Her worry about my debt? She doesn't have a job, she does't pay the bills, it's not her problem. I've managed our finances for years and we are still afloat. I don't worry about her debt and we have bill collectors calling for her. She can fuck her name over all she wants as can I. I just have the scruples not too.
I took her and the kids to see a movie a yesterday. I was telling her some confidential numbers and facts about a hospital that I have some affiliation with. I probably shouldn't have been telling her the story I suppose but when I realized it was information that shouldn't be retold I told her "don't tell any of this that i'm telling you, it's not really something the hospital wants out there". She proceeded to jump my case about not knowing when to keep things to herself. It's funny because the first and only time I ever DIDN'T tell her to keep quite about something that she needed tell, she told several people. If you want to be trusted- be trustworthy.
Tonight we were having a conversation about something and she said a phrase that sounded like something her dad would say. So I called her by her dad's name in jest. She went off on me about how shoe's not like anyone, she's only like herself, and no one is like her but her and she is her own individual and didn't appreciate being called by someone else's name. I later said that it bothers me how we can fight over things that are not worth fighting over. She then was upset that I said she often gets upset LOL! She told me it is not for me to determine what 's worth getting upset over and what's not and on and on and on. Ya know what? There's very little that's worth getting so upset and fighting about.
So My observation in all of this is that different people value things differently. I know that's not very profound, but it is for this fact: If you value peace more than your spouse you will constantly be giving and sacrificing. I can't tell my wife what is worth getting upset about. I can only tell myself. I don't think much is worth sacrificing peace and love for. You can call me my dad's name all day long, hell you can call me anything you want and I just smile and laugh. When finding a spouse find someone who values peace the same as you and you won't have nearly as many arguments about what is worth getting upset over.
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