Adversary

I have come to the conclusion there are people in this world who actually enjoy adversity. Perhaps enjoy is the wrong word for it.  There are some people that feel more comfortable in the midst of adversity than if in a time of contentment or peace.  But why is this?  Why would anyone prefer to be in strife instead of solace? My best assertion is because that's what they knew growing up as a child.  In my experience I have noted that the people I know that tend to induce unnecessary adversity, typically had a stressful family life growing up.
I am kinda curious how two people that enjoy adversity interact as well as two people that like peace interact.  My suspicion is this is one of the biggest forces at work in a divorce.  I have known people to be married until death, that you'd have thought they disliked each other, but they were just adversarial.  They never got along, always fought, but always stuck together.  Then again, I've known people who married who stayed married, but they were also really peaceful people and got along most of the time.  The relationships I see that split are the ones where one person constantly causes angst because this is what they are comfortable with, and the other person seeks peace because that's what they know.  This doesn't work at all because the adversarial person will constantly take from the one who seeks peace because they are trying to cause some level of tension to achieve comfort.   The peace seeker will constantly give in to the adversarial partner because they constantly seek peace, because this is what they are comfortable with.  At some point one of the two parties has to give in and change.  It's that or the adversarial partner makes the peace seeker snap because they have been pushed too far and the family is split.  This is a very important observation to me and I think is the key to seeing you have a good marriage.  Know yourself.  Know if you like peace or tension.  Be honest about it.  Then determine which your potential spouse is and be very mindful of this. It wills save you alot of a headache.