Can I have a little?

Can I have a little of my own stuff to myself in the life?  I have waited so long to be able to do what I want and put things where I want and not constantly have to answer to someone.  I couldn't wait to grow up.  Now I answer to my wife, who might I add, is far worse than my parents.  I can't put things where I want.  I have been in trouble this week for putting a bottle of powder in front of hair supplies on the shelf.  The part the pisses me off the most though, is that I let her get by with being this way.  I am so passive and easy to get along with by nature that I never buck her absurdity.  I never say "well find a new place for your hair stuff". I can't change the temperature on the thermostat or control the temperature in my car or listen to the music I want to listen to when she is around.  I have head phones and tough out whatever temp she wants to be.  Why am I such a push over? My argument though, is I shouldn't have to be a hard ass about things.  I should just be able to compromise, and let her have her way some and me have mine some.  Soon enough she can have her way all the time by her lonesome.  I am growing so tired of her.