Sex on the brain

Upon having discovered that I am lacking intimacy rather than sex in my life, I have determined that sex is the grand distraction.  It can make a mediocre, and even lacking relationship, seem to be meaningful, at least until climax. It can  poison your mind and the ability to make sound judgments.  Furthermore it can ruin relationships if you suspect your spouse or significant other is cheating on you.  For this reason I have determined that extramarital sex is worthless.  If you practice abstinence prior to marriage you show that you have the ability to refrain from sex with someone that you sincerely love even though you desperately want to fuck their brains out.  If you can withstand the desire to fuck their brains out prior to marriage, after you are married, you can be assured that same level of self control will be exercised in maintaining marital fidelity.  If I expect to be able to have a reasonable relationship with ANYONE in the future, I need to maintain the relationship I have now to the best of my ability until it reaches terminal velocity.  If I am to participate in extramarital sex with a someone else then I know that I cannot expect them to be faithful to me later in a relationship no matter how much my mind tries to convince me of that.  Likewise they shouldn't expect anymore from me if I'm engaging in extramarital sex.